This was said to me this morning on the way to work:
The signs of an abuser:
They are mean and aggressive, until you call them on it. Then they present themselves as the victim.
Turning yourself into the victim is so unattractive. I've just watched this whole scenario play out. I am happy to know I am the one coming out with my head high. You're not a victim. You just don't like that I have called you out on your behavior! Its probably easier to pretend you are the innocent victim to garner more attention that way.
A trend is a trend. If the shoe fits on the above definition, well then, the shoe fits!